Poem Analysis- How is the love between the narrator and the Lord presented in the poem?

In the poem, the relationship between the Narrator and the Lord is presented to be a very complicated, stressful and untrustworthy.

The poem is a lot a like the story and development of the relationship of Pertruchio and Kate in the novel 'Taming Of The Shrew'. Both relationships are controlling and in both cases the women is treated badly and with little respect.

At the beginning of the poem the narrator talks about the fact that before the 'great lord', she was a 'cottage maid', meaning that she a virgin and unmarried. And to stay a virgin until the day she is married. She lived with her cottage maid mates. She also, in this same stanza, but towards the end, she say 'why did a great lord find me out/ To fill my heart with care?' And this point, we are unaware what this 'care' is, but what we do know its that she is regretting letting the lord into her life and effect her. So even at this point, straight into the poem is starts with regret and loath for him and how he changed her.

The narrator then continues to talk about how he has main her feel and how he has treated her. ' He changed me like a glove' She is hurt by the way he has just moved from her to her own cousin. He doesn't treat her with any respect, he just got bored and moved to someone else. She is hurt by this, and feels that he has changed and ruined her prospects in life 'so now I moan, an unclean thing,/ who might have been a dove.' She feels she could have been so much, but because of this stupid choice she made, to fall in love with him all that is good. This line makes it obvious that he took her virginity and gave her so many other things, at this point we only know he had given her hate and embarrassment but as the poem goes on we find out that, as well as taking so much he has given a illegitimate child then has just left her for her cousin.

Later in the poem The Lord marries the narrators cousin. To much hatred of the narrator. She expresses her wishes to spit in his face. She is disgust  that he has managed to win over another women, and says that she would never let this happen, she would instead 'spit into his face'.

The Narrator has much hate for The Lord and what he has done to her, loved her, taken part of her, left her and left her with a child to carry for 9 months. She hates every part of him for the disrespect he has shown. And the has a child with this man. This child is the cause of so much embarrassment, the cause of becoming an 'outcast' in her social circle. 'My fair-haired son, my shame, my pride'. She is aware that this child is the cause of so much past, current and future pain, but she also knows that it is her pride. It is the symbol that she can be strong and get through things, without a man. And she will never let the hate of other people get her down, as long as she has her child.

All the way through the poem it is about how much she hates and despises the Lord for so many reasons. But at the end of the poem, roughly the last stanza, the mood changes completely. The Narrator forgets about all the hate she has for him and instead turns her attention to her feelings toward the child. What ever The Lord has done, not done or said, there is one thing she can not deny and that it the love for her child. A mothers love for her child is unconditional, and what ever the lord has done means nothing. The child is her shame but on the other hand it is her love, her 'pride'. and she will never let go of that love 'cling closer'.